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In my last essay to you, I did write that your attachment style can affect your sex life. I went further to spotlight those those who fall under the Anxious Attachment Style. You should read it if you missed it.
Attachment styles play a role in the way we approach and experience sex. While secure attachment is associated with a fulfilling sex life, insecure attachment styles – anxious/preoccupied, dismissive/avoidant, and disorganized – have been linked to less satisfaction and more casual sex in intimate relationships.
Today we look at Avoidant attachment style and sex. Hmmm… Let’s see what we have.
Avoidant Attachment: less likely to fall in love and more likely to engage in casual sex
Adults with an avoidant attachment style typically have a deactivated attachment system. Avoidant individuals do not seek proximity and intimacy, avoid the display of emotions, and appear distant and cold.
People who have this attachment style are less likely to fall in love, and they don’t seem to believe in ‘happily ever after’. They fear intimacy and tend to be less involved in relationships.
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Their relationships are often unsatisfying, which they contribute to by engaging in relationally destructive behaviors – sabotaging the relationship.
Sex (and intimacy in general) can make avoidant adults uncomfortable
In adolescence, those with an avoidant attachment style perceive their sex drive as relatively low. If they do have sex, this might be driven by self-enhancing motives, such as losing their virginity.
Generally, avoidant adults don’t seem to use sex to express emotional proximity and love for their partners. This can be highly problematic if they have an anxious/preoccupied lover, who relies on sex to feel loved and desired.
Considering that sex typically requires physical and psychological proximity, it can evoke discomfort in avoidant individuals. Therefore, adults with this attachment style often don’t enjoy their sexual experiences. They are also not likely to enjoy passionate and affectionate foreplay.
Thank you for reading.