Most of us spend our entire lives trying to earn acceptance. We want to earn it from our parents, peers, partners in life, from people we respect, maybe even from people we envy.
The drive to be accepted is a deep drive that can influence the kind of clothes you wear, the kind of car you drive, the kind of house you buy, even the career you choose.
Remember as a kid you wanted so badly to be in the in-crowd that someone would say to you, "I dare you to do this," and they'd suggest something that was either stupid, or that put you in an unsafe situation. But, you did it anyway because your desire to be accepted overruled the desire for safety.
We do it because we love the feeling of "I'm OK, I'm accepted; somebody accepts me." When you're accepted, it does tremendous things for your self-esteem.
it’s fine to feel that pressure of wishing to be accepted into a circle
I get it because everyone gets to that point sometime as they journey through this earth but pulled through.
You can also pull through but that is dependent on you accepting you’re enough but can get better.
There’ll always be levels to things; exposure, circle of influence, social currencies, fluid or invested wealth etc but the secret is you knowing that you don’t arrive there in a day rather you move from one level to another.
So you can say you’re enough for a level and use that as a springboard for progressing to another level.
Your mental state is energised and charged when you accept you’re enough but can get better. The former makes you understand you’re not worthless while the latter propels you to keep pushing.
You’re invaluable!!
P.S. In my latest video, I talked about Forgiveness as a tool towards healing from hurt and harm. You should watch it
and should you want to talk to someone, I’m right here.