Many years ago, I never felt I was deserving of being loved by a woman.
Yes, this is a true confession from me to you, and permit me to tell you that this is the first time I am sharing this publicly because I didn’t know how serious this was until much later.
In fact, I did not know I was feeling this way until my last relationship before this one that I am in because I always felt they had a problem, save for one that I ended though.
But one thing I got to understand recently was that I made up for my low self-esteem in a relationship by being too much in their space and being what one of them termed ‘love obsession’. Oh! how badly hit I felt the day she uttered those words because I have always considered obsession to be a bad thing.
At the beginning of February, I started a series on Psychological Complexes and what a journey it has been for me. I say it is a journey because when I sit to record each episode, I find myself thinking about myself as I speak. I ask if I am what I am saying or once was.
I have been through an inferiority complex before and I cannot deny the fact that in a bid to hide my sense of inferiority, I have imposed some form of ‘I am better than you’ posture on myself sometimes.
Let me say that it is possible for you to get away with some attitudes you exude when feeling inferior or superior to others but the biggest hit you will receive is when you present yourself that way in a romantic relationship.
Hang on fellas!
I am not saying you should pretend rather I’d say show who you are but be vulnerable enough to ask for help so you don’t ruin what you want to build formidably or are destroy what you have built.
Let me wrap it up by reminding you that :
What exists is more important than what you have