I am sitting on my bed as I type this and that’s because I have been thinking about this for the past 2 days. I am wearied by the fact that I need to write to you.
I am pained that I haven’t written to you in a long while simply because I have not been in the fright frame of mind.
Now, it’s not that I’m ill or out of my mind just that I’m reminded of my humanity.
As a young boy, I lived in the skin of rejection from friends and classmates. I will like to say say that some of these rejections didn’t come clearly as rejections but through the words and things said to me.
Interestingly, I have sometimes found myself been reminded of that things said to us or names given to us by those we presume to be friends don’t necessarily define us instead it is a pointer to the fact that we’re human and not perfect. After all, if they don’t talk, how do you make corrections or make life-changing decisions?
I have heard clients tell me it’s easier to say “don’t hold it to heart” than not really holding it to heart. I must cinder they are right. However, those who say you should not hold it to heart are also right. It’s all about the side of the table where you’re sitting.
So, back to my story of rejection. I got a rejection email from a particular school and it cut deep. Now, I’ve gotten a number for rejection emails -from work related to school and not leaving out relationship- but none hit hard as this one. I pondered all week why that happened. I’m still pondering and perhaps I will update you when I discover why.
For now, I’ll grab what I have within me and as mine rather than dwell on what has rejected me. I spoke to a friend and he said something: he reminded me as in the words of Burna Boy:
‘I’m way too smart to be falling in your trap’
I do not mean to leave you hanging instead I want you to begin to ponder why you feel the way you feel when things don’t go your way.
P.S. Watched my video on Approval Addiction signs? Watch below 👇🏾
..till you hear from me