Dear Friends,
In my last newsletter, I talked about chasing the cheers of others while you wallow in your own unhappiness/sadness Did you miss it, please check it out. In furtherance to that, I’ll like to share a note with you that talks about how we can get to chase the cheers others because we want acceptance even when there’s a likelihood that we’re not safe.
Most of us spend our entire lives trying to earn acceptance. We want to earn it from our parents, peers, partners in life, from people we respect, maybe even from people we envy. The drive to be accepted is a deep drive that can influence the kind of clothes you wear, the kind of car you drive, the kind of house you buy, even the career you choose
Remember as a kid you wanted so badly to be in the in-crowd that someone would say to you, “I dare you to do this,” and they’d suggest something that was either stupid or that put you in an unsafe situation. But, you did it anyway because your desire to be accepted overruled the desire for safety. We do it because we love the feeling of “I’m OK, I’m accepted; somebody accepts me.” When you’re accepted, it does tremendous things for your self-esteem
Your mental state is energized and charged when you accept you’re enough but can get better.
The former makes you understand you’re not worthless while the latter propels you to keep pushing.